factor F (ie how to be lucky) Fortune and misfortune are two sides of same coin.
If driving the car, a wheel pit, the unfortunate exclaims, "What bad luck, just happen to me was to drill a wheel!"
the lucky, smiling, crying "What luck! I punctured just a wheel. "
lucky I see the glass half full of the unfortunate see it as half empty.
is we who decide whether to be that of Gaston (lucky ducks born with a caul) or Donald (Ducks unlucky to the last feather of the tail).
Now I want to reveal the four secrets of the English psychologists Wiseman to become lucky.
Principle No. 1:
to grasp the opportunities offered by the case. The lucky
create, notice and seize the opportunities of life fortuitous. Why the lucky meet nice people at parties and find opportunities to change for the better the situation? Wiseman identifies the personality one of the most distinguished by the lucky unlucky. According to the theory of the Big Five personality traits from 5 to do next:
conscientiousness (the degree of self-discipline, strength of will)
pleasantness (availability and empathy for one's neighbor)
extroversion (clear, no?)
neuroticism (level of anxiety, nervousness)
openness (openness to new experiences)
According to research by Wiseman in ' analysis of the first two points do not notice much difference, which is the case for the other three.
extroversion:
The lucky are more extrovert know many people are social magnets (ie attract more), keep in touch with others. The reasoning is that they do what is best to try to meet interesting people rather than be bored alone. More people know, the greater the opportunity for online dating: the lucky build and nurture a strong "network of Fortune", given by several acquaintances. This greater openness to new knowledge, coupled with the fact that they expect positive encounters, it affects the body language face a more relaxed, smiling, looking more direct, more openness. This attitude affects precisely the social magnetism, that people are more attracted to other individuals as "free", which behave in this modo.Conoscono people, attract and retain the relationship here is how you create and capture the find everything.
neuroticism:
The lucky ones have a more relaxed attitude toward life. This impacts not only on health, including the ability to see the opportunities that arise. Research has shown that a high level of stress and anxiety affect the concentration: this is often a person does not notice what's going on and, therefore, even if there is a favorable find everything. The lucky ones are more serene and notice these things. Do not expect to run into certain opportunities but not being anxious and having a clear head (I am, eh?), Notice it when there. They see what is there, instead of looking for what you want to see.
open mind: Simply the
lucky are open to new experiences. Are thrown, experience, experience and the many attempts that are good ones more than outweigh those gone bad, that in their heads are immediately classified as irrelevant.
Principle No. 2: Follow the instinct
lucky I use and follow your intuition and "sixth sense". According to the psychology of the presentation is based on the concept of familiarity: our subconscious mind stores facts, situations and feelings that often do not notice consciously, but that are present. We do not know how or when, but associate with a choice or a person to something already seen or experienced: for this reason, insights, these are often corrected ee reliable. These presentations are typical for people, but often the situation, just think of the popular meaning of dejavu. Just because you make a lot of expectations, it also damage to be done to strengthen it. Techniques are used in the exercises, but it is anticipated that the most common is that of meditation, not understanding in the Eastern sense, but simply as a "liberation" of the mind of all unnecessary thoughts.
Principle No. 3: Be optimistic
:
lucky I expect everything will go well. Always. Psychology (and experience) we know that our expectations have a significant impact on our thoughts, feelings and actions. This foreshadow the future that looks bright for the lucky and the unlucky black, is called self-fulfilling prophecy. The self-fulfilling prophecies affect many aspects of daily life (health, relationships with others, work) and for most of the time: what we always think? A how things go. The unfortunate are convinced that circumstances conducive to fade away soon and that tomorrow will continue to be gloomy and gray. The lucky instead set aside the unfortunate events as mere accidents along the way, as ephemeral and transient, and, in doing so, preserve the initial optimism. The lucky
seek to achieve their objectives, even if the chances of success are poor and do not give up the face of failure. Gli iellati sono cosi convinti di fallire che spesso non provano nemmeno a raggiungere i propri obiettivi (non studiare per l'esame, non conoscere una persona supponendo che sia antipatica) e questo atteggiamento tramuta le attese in realtà. Gli sfortunati sono più ansiosi, come già detto in precedenza, e hanno maggiori difficoltà a concentrarsi su ciò che stanno facendo e spesso pensano ad affanni e problemi anzichè a quello che sta accadendo intorno
I fortunati si aspettano che le interazioni con gli altri siano propizie e vantaggiose. Le profezie autoavveranti hanno influenza sull'atteggiamento che hanno verso gli altri, come detto prima parlando del linguaggio del corpo. Wiseman fa un esempio molto chiaro: immaginate di andare a un appointment in the dark, before telling the person you meet is friendly. Quite relaxed and confident you will go to spend a nice evening, so willing, cheerful. With this attitude will be easier to talk and communicate in a positive way. If you had said that the person to meet was nasty, it would change everything, right?
Principle 4:
Turning misfortune into fortune
not that lucky to always go fine, indeed. The fact is that they can see the bright side of bad luck, using counterfactual thinking, imagining that the most negative thing could have happened instead of mulling over what really happened. In this is implemented so the emotional impact of the event and reinforced the belief that they were lucky. Likewise, when something happens to confront people who are worse off. An example is to be done in the midst of an accident and had broken his arm. The unfortunate they see it as a stroke of bad luck, lucky as a stroke of luck (could be much more serious consequences).
lucky I believe that in the long run, any woes will be solved in the best way: by focusing on benefits that have derived from the negative situation, or those that could draw in future (I have taken? Find a job better). The lucky not look back to bad luck, the Their reasoning is: if I can not help it, it makes no sense to continue to worry about.
When people look back to the negative side, they begin to grieve, and when instead focus on the positive aspects they feel much happier. This has an influence on memory, as psychology has taught us that memory and mood are in one relationship.
The fact that they believe that everything will be fine, does not mean that the take for granted and do nothing. Indeed, the damage done to prevent even the smallest bad luck in the future, every effort, they are so convinced of success. The unfortunate, as I said, often give up at the start thinking that there is nothing to do. The lucky ones are trying to understand where they went wrong and correct themselves, not blaming only the bad luck. I am finally able to implement alternative solutions, imaginative, using lateral thinking, while the unlucky are more superstitious.
